Hungry games

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The raindrops knock persistently on the window as if complaining of being too wet. I hear a slight affected cough , a whoosh of the comforter as a pair of little legs scuffle their way out and land on it with a thump. I don’t want to get up but I do and reason with a momentarily unreasonable child who after a drink of water, a kiss on his nose and lots of assurance later agrees to go back to sleep.

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Murmuring under their breath, fall the raindrops as if in resignation to wetness being their natural state but not without a sporadic plink-a-plonk on the window as if in indignation. I try to remember a raindrop I once knew. Suspiciously stubborn, it stayed up long after the others had flown down in streams to meet the little puddle on the sill. I remember waiting (not so patiently) and then with my finger giving it a nudge ,causing it to splish, leaving behind a muddy cloud. I hear the child stir again, he wakes faster than my thought. He talks a lengthy length about his dream, gets promised a toy the next time we are at the shops. He sleeps. Through the rest of the night, maybe but probably not.

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It is morning, the rain has stopped. I notice a profusion of tiny muddy impact craters on my kitchen window. I wonder how many of the raindrops had cloudy outlooks, the marks they left suggest confusion. I like confused company. I am only just starting to count how many and everyone in the house seems to wake up. I make some quick noises with the dishes and the spoons and the pots to remind myself I am in the kitchen. The naughty child is cranky. It is understandable. The naughty child has been up all night. The not so naughty child is cranky . It is understandable. Sleeping through a long rainy night wakes one ravenously hungry.

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I rush with the cooking, the little ones eat bananas and go bananas while breakfast gets ready. In the few minutes I take to scramble eggs ,toast bread  warm apple muffins and make a mean hot chocolate the children have expressed so many overly expressive emotions . Every emotion, from silly piggy happiness complete with oinks and grunts to the one with a tear peeping out the corner of an eye, the one I like to call the look of exquisite suffering. Hungry games are food for thought.

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It is a holiday. Daddy is at home too. We just got up, had breakfast and are back in bed, regardless. For a few minutes we are silly and lazy. We hear thunder and the children clap. This summer is gone, the lightening flashes in my mind. My heart goes pitter patter. I feel very much like a raindrop.

Splosh.

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The revenge of Mrs E.

Where to begin? Some stories are difficult to tell . They are living and moving and are yet undecided which way they will go. They started out of the ordinary like stories do , once upon a time, and are now struggling to rise above the commonplace . Fretting over how uninteresting they might be getting, if they are to someday meet their happily ever after , secretly hoping that there will be no such end.

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Yet , this story has a conclusive title. For the little nondescript heroine, Mrs Bear (as she likes to be endearingly called) has been struck. Startled into losing her sleep. Mrs. E (as she likes to be intimidatingly and mysteriously called) has had her revenge.

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It so happened, and not by chance either that as Mrs Bear was clearing away the table after a breakfast of Eggplant Bruschetta heavily scented with basil and a berry banana super smoothie she was very proud of having fed her family that she had to hold her head in its place and sit herself down. Panic  kept her together , this would be the third migraine in three weeks. Mostly blended into the background,her pulse made sure she heard its grating throb.

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” Mrs Bear , close your eyes and sleep.” So said Mr. Bear. So warned Mrs. E.

So ignored Mrs Bear. She lay awake listening to the dismal prospects of impending rain.Bored, she befriended the google monster.He made her feel smart, after a long day of nursery rhymes and squabbles. Too hot too cold, complained she to the coverlet , taking turns to embrace and kick it. Scared to sleep , scared to not. She got out of the bed with the sun and painted feverishly.

She tries desperately to make everyday unlike everyday. Quite so, quite so. She fails. Everywhere are chores.Babies wail. They swallow the day as a whole.

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“Mrs Bear, let be ” So says Big Bear. So alerts and guffaws a gritty laughter Mrs E.

Mrs Bear she gets full of guilt if she let be. In the early morning she grows a shadow of afternoon three.

Mrs E of calculating eyes, of ill short temper, chortles with her thin lips , ” you had been warned, now must suffer!!”

Poor Mrs bear has slept hardly much , her headache hasn’t left. She forgets. It’s been a month.

Now, of course she thinks she will do better. Feed herself better, and make sleeping important. For her story still has a long long way to go. Mrs E ‘s nasty revenge shall remind her.

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Mrs. E , INTIMIDATINGLY and MYSTERIOUSLY so called, is exhaustion. A steep rise, a deep ravine. Don’t let her get YOU.

 

Simple Bear necessities

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Four bears at home

with all their bear stuffs

warm and fuzzy

the little ones especially

a snuggle sure enough

is a simple bear necessity.

 

On a rainy day

with muddy towels and tippy-toes

plays one baby bear

and cries the other, out of sheer perplexity

to grow together yet not entwined

is a simple bear necessity.

 

When wandering uphill

and not carefree

with burdened dusty shoes

In face of too much complexity

for the sake of longevity

A NAP

is a simple bear necessity.

 

On days of winter sunshine

light and gold

to seek solitude

and question their notorious brevity

to sulk when the world says happy

to give in to vain vanity

is a simple bear necessity.

 

For days that do not end

and those that do

in a huff, a puff , a blink

there is no tested remedy

but warm food and a thought to think

for to march on bear paws steadily

is the absolute simple bear necessity.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The pursuit of laziness

leads to happiness, for one thing.

Sometimes, nah, often I get rather cross at Big Bear for being too lazy. Every Monday , to tell the truth. The one day he is home, poor guy and all he really wants is to be in bed longer and keep me there too. He wouldn’t mind at all if there weren’t any food, we can always eat slices of cheese and dunk cookies in milk.

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It has reached proverbial heights (or lows) that right when I give in to his warm morning snuggles and am just about to nod off myself, one of our kids wakes up too sprightly that he must start to cry. I have to be off my feet just then , give comfort and arrange a quick snack. That starts it! My lawn mower of a brain, in defense of labor. My whipper-snipper hands ready to squeeze dry a day of all its slow pleasures. Rinse repeat.

I will go on! Proud of my little shiny happy people bouncing about, breakfast on stove and Big Bear with a childlike mouth slightly open, sleeping still on a delicious bed. From bed to kitchen without the transition of sitting on the edge while toes wait for knees to rise from slumber queers my thinking. I start to reckon what a perfect little bear , big bear is.On a holiday, he sleeps early, wakes up late , eats all that I make or don’t. What a wonderful unreal child he is.

One of my real children will make a face at whatever is there for breakfast and I will somehow force in a few spoonfuls. I will go on!  Clean up when the new book I started to read feels terribly ignored. Big Bear will call me to sit with him, relax. Lie in bed for the children are fed.  And me? I’ ll look at the trash he hasn’t taken out and think him lazy though my legs will quietly be thanking him.

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I ‘d say we need a vacation,  we need to go out.  A surprised feminist tone saying” I have to do all that has to be done” ,I hear myself. Big Bear proves resistant to all my thoughts on  virtue and utility . As I look at him while he is ‘bearly’ awake trying to pursue another reverie, suddenly enlightened he tells me , ” we are here.” His laziness brings my brain respite, nourishes my perpetual poverty of rest. I wish to sip tea, stare blankly ,completely content void of all content , enlightened and still sipping. I begin to yearn to deliberately do nothing.

I shouldn’t be cross when I can learn to slow down. Some things can wait for tomorrow. Or the next day. Big Bear rescues me. Time to set time free.

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Only mommy

 

badcookHe’s here, always there

looking at me

into my nose

uncommonly interested-ly

What’s that? ,with a pat on my new zit

” Don’t worry mommy, you be fine in a bit.”

Time for tea just as I reckon

set in motion hysterics that deafen

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How could you, how could you mommy?

bite into a cookie and keep it fromm-e?

You shouldn’t , you mustn’t ,it’s only propriety

now CARRY me ,ease my anxiety.

bring me juice in a glass with a straw

hurry mommy, no more of this hee -and- haw

Where are my shoes? find my shoes

No, not you daddy, it’s mommy I choose

MOMMY. ONLY MOMMY.

look at me .look into my eyes

says he with a bossy guidance

throws away my book and pretends it to be good ri-d-dance.

Makes a pout-y face, “uh! ridiculous”

a nice touch, just a bit pretentious.

he is an upheaval, a strong force in the universe

the eruption of deep feelings into silly verse

” I need a hug”

” A big hug” says he

from my mommy

ONLY MOMMY.

and then he calls me “pooh baby!”

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Keeping the home

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is how I spent all of last week. The sound you hear is the reverberating cacophony of doorbells and phones ringing, fragile marked cartons being thrown around as if what is fragile huh!,even relatively?

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when does it start to feel like home?

We moved in last week. Into our new house, and I can’t say yet , “I love it!”. Hear me out, loving is a process, both baffling and exasperating and in this time of little sleep and too much to do , all I want is to look at some familiar sights and eat a LOT of comfort food. Warming noodles in a cup sounds like punishment though the slurp and the slight fiery tang of cheap food will bring me life. Around here I feel utterly deprived of culinary amusements which is  leading to utter cooking apathy as a direct consequence.

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I think deeply about how I should be planning menus and writing grocery lists when I should be sleeping instead, I am scared. I must admit to being completely stubborn , for outrageously opening all of our life packed in boxes all at once and not breathing till everything had its place. That was a most harebrained thing to do, I realize now that my mind is egregiously scattered. When you sit on a floor covered in boxes and kids who are threatening to start their meltdowns any moment now and know not where to start, it is easier to promptly ignore ,”don’t do it all at once” and just do it. If only I had come across short-term storage before, I would have lived more readily out of boxes and would be less overwhelmed. Anyway, more absurd than this is to answer the question ,” so you are all settled now?” I always do find myself saying ,”yes”. Oh! well!

Yet, I am not unhappy. A Mexican corn on the cob with feta and corn will make me happy to bits. A juicy lime on the side will make me roll on the floor, now that we have the space. I was wondering last week if we ll make it . We will, now that I have begun to use my paints and brushes, I know we will.

turkish designs in my bohemian home!

From house to home, it is a complex relationship. Imperfect, moody ,consummate even. That reminds me ,I must get dressed and meet Big Bear for lunch. I hope the kids will be nice and we can dig into a large platter of dumplings and cold beer. I know, I know we ll drink in the day. Just a little. We just shifted. We are excused. We ll take a cab back to this place we are learning to call home.

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Goodbye old friend.

All of last month there has been a flutter in my stomach. I have been cleaning sorting , packing , giving away, secretly dreading the day when we move. And here it is upon us. I have complained often how much work packing is, but why oh why is it really so shockingly easy to dismantle this entire life and stow it away .

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The dust you hold, old friend is all ours in this moment, short-lived. My babies have left marks on your walls, shaken wildly your  creaky doors. You have seen us bare, in body and in mind, seen us make love , seen us fight. You have held our secrets, contained our anger, spread our joy. You did not seem to mind our moaning your lack of space. I wonder if there really were a lack, you made space for my growing belly, for a new baby and bassinets and high chairs and cots and for all the thousands of crafts we made. You held us up these five years in the most unsightly desperate moments and kept us from falling out of giddy excitement.

You know more than I, of times that have gone by.You know I am a fool. Hold me up for now, old friend. Till new residents take you from me, till someone else looks out my window tomorrow and you are freshly painted. The children are excited, yet they ask , ” Mamma then who will live here?” .” Are we never coming back here?” All happiness must be tinged, dear friend. I know that now.

I’ll hold you, dear friend. I wouldn’t forget. It will be hard to look back at you and not think of you as our own little corner,to have not the sight of your trees in the balcony. You are already looking away from me, distancing yourself like the good friend you are. Pushing me out, pushing me forward, I know you. I won’t be back but you ll stay. Here and in our memories. In old photos that will pop up time and again. When the children will talk, you know they will. We will. I have got to go make another home, so babies can not feel much pain. They are tiny for it. Send me with some of your rusty , swaying  third floor strength, friend.

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May you know more life, more lovers’ sighs. May they tend you well. Farewell.

You have been our home and will.

From the bundle of boxes that I am until on this earth I be.

 

 

The tale of poo(h). No, not the adorable bear.

MY TRIBUTE TO THE FUN THAT IS POTTY TRAINING.

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Every- inch- a- terror,

I wouldn’t maroon you

No, not in ever

Stay stranded we will

on potty island

Pirates we are! Remember?!

This world is ours

and its adventures ,of the turd kind

Why would I EVER mind?

“Do ants go potty?”, you will say

” platypuses and dinosaurs and scorpions too?”

“And mommy , YOU?”

“What about spiders??”

Shiver me timbers, this pooping thing is fun!

So far too, from being done

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We ARE in this together

through our crabby tempers and our crappy moods

as we stare each other out

We prove again we are no flighty dudes.

( A slight cry here for the loss of my ladylike-ness)

such is the state of our mess.

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I am not deserting you

till you are ready

to simply poop ,plop , flush and go.

to look beyond the world of poo(h) and know

“Oh! the places you’ll go”

For now

I am mommy. AND It’s doody.

 

 

PS: This is dedicated to all mommies, spending hours in the bathroom with their little ones ,coaxing, pleading, yelling, story-telling. We are in this together. I am not sure if we ll miss the potty accidents and messes, but we ll surely miss the journey to that plop of victory! And how we shouted hurray!

 

 

 

 

Love myself, despite

It is hot.  It could distort-a- thought hot. Melting like morning butter on toast. There is no more coaxing our little pine. It is a goodbye. The babies get sad when I try to explain.

The wind has sat down. You’d think it will move again but it won’t.  It just sits getting heavier. A loss of free will. You’d think evening would bring relief  but by twilight , free will is thickened jam.  Store in a jar and refrigerate.

Pour yet another glass of a chilled something for the children, worry what if even watermelons will evaporate. Check again and be positive that the window panes are starting to swell. Go look once more and be positive it is only an illusion.

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Be hot-headed. Forget to drink.  A rag doll be. Don’t stop that unsavory lament of how no one cares. Don’t feel like eating. Skip that lunch. A permanent temporary solution. Allow hurtful words to play in your head. Fight for why no one stands for you. Why no one understands. Tired you, tire yourself some more.

Only don’t.

Bear with me, cheer is nigh.

Sit yourself down. Drink something. Eat something. Replenish before you can give again. Get that jar out. Sweet free will. Wash down that hurt. Butterfly float. There is second wind.

Next time, when someone unkind, says you stay home and do nothing. Don’t you wait for someone else to jump in and save you.

Up you stand and say ,” I am a mother of young children, the center of our home, I am the lover , the nurse, the laughter, the art. The heart. The hearth. I am the sum of our everyday and I am the difference our little ones will make.”

When downward bound again, repeat, ” love myself, despite.”

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Cow-tastrophe, adieu to nursing.

Ever since I was just a little girl, I was quite the cow. Daft and awkward and herbivore. Aunt Flo paid me her first visit rather late but I think I always had the motherly instinct. I was ready to be blinded in love, to keep home and to cradle precious little cherubs.cow1

Big Bear must have given me a knowing look, I must have blushed and there I was – excitedly nesting and moo-dily resting, groaning and growing. Generally refusing to come down from cloud nine. Metaphorically of course. Or literally.

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Well, till I was brought down, held , all my moo-vements moo-ing beyond my control and toasty pink babies popping out of me. One by one , the second one five years after the first. So, I have received knowing looks from Big Bear and blushed at least twice in my life.cow3

Each time, for months thereafter, everything was betwixt and between. I was sleepless and there was udder chaos (pun seriously intended). I had a little nursling in a cute outfit ogling into the dark , slurping away. I must admit that there were times I lost all the joy in country moo -sic and completely drowned myself in blues instead but the cute outfits and Big Bear always got me right on track.cow4

As the suckling grew , we formed a routine and stuck to it. We started to have a few udderly pleasant days. We even slept better.  I felt seasoned and was so much into everyday that I ignored how fast the suckling was enlarging and how much more engaging his little world was getting. Then on a particularly nice day, when I was feeling on top of things and was about to jump over the moon,

cow5 I was brought down, held in surprise, when my suckling, now toddler(?!) was ready to be put to bed without a comforting nursing session. He was done. We were done. cow6I am in udder chaos, maybe it is just deja-moo. It feels like a cow-tastrophe though. I am trying to laugh it off but I am grieving inside. I tried lingerie shopping and don’t know yet if it will help. This hormonal turmoil makes me want to blush again but Big Bear being the sensible one reminds me , ” No NO honey we are good!”

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Maybe I am scared of not being a cow anymore. I am scared of saying adieu to nursing. So I ll just say goodbye for the while. It may never be but I will not close the possibility. I will be meeting a little bit more of me in the meanwhile. Daft and awkward and herbivore.